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"A household residing in the northern part of London seeks an exceptional and experienced tutor to assist their most junior child on his initial journey to turning into an British gentleman."

Looking at this advertisement, you might naturally overlook the term "first-steps" as mere an expression.

Yet, it might be the most significant aspect of this unusual position posting, as it seeks to find a mentor for a infant.

Numerous of applications have already been sent in since the anonymous family posted their search for the highly paid tutor, who must be "an exceptional individual".

In recent few weeks, the post has gained attention in the news, with several questioning why?

Progressive Approach

A tutoring expert, CEO and founder of an education consultancy, which is supporting the family in their quest, stated that despite first skepticism, he considered the idea "visionary", and "progressive".

When he spoke with the family, he said they appreciated the unconventional character of their request, and how young their son is.

However, they stated that they "didn't want to wait any longer" to engage a tutor, as they had held off until their older child was five, and by that stage "cultural bias had already become established".

What precisely did the family refer to by "cultural leaning"?

It's "everything", he answered. "The manner you eat, the manner you speak".

He said the firstborn had adopted "extremely delicate, unspoken signals" from the family, and had adopted their cultural ways. The family told Adam they wished to avoid history to repeat itself with their younger child.

The intention: To engage a British tutor, who should speak with standard English accent, to influence the baby right from the beginning.

Subtle Influence

"Much of the learning at the outset here is kind of absorbed naturally," said the CEO.

It's through this subtle influence that the family are expecting the child will adopt the UK customs they aim to impart.

The consultant explained the tutor needed to be an individual who studied at "the appropriate educational institutions – comparable categories of schools as the family aspire to send their son to".

"The tutor simply needs to be the suitable individual, they'll be carrying out things they don't even know they're doing, effortlessly," he added.

Money No Object

The family explained to him the chosen tutor should ideally also have knowledge of or enthusiasm in equestrian activities, alpine skiing, the arts and instrumental training so as to influence the child in a broad spectrum of hobbies.

Additionally though, he said the family hoped the tutor to enrol the child on a variety of lessons so the child would be "horseback riding and picking up an instrument by the time they are approximately three years old".

In the family's minds, assisting their son develop into a "English gentleman" will result in accomplishment and provide access.

"For all the advantages and disadvantages of that, because it's undoubtedly a social class indicator," he notes.

However, in spite of all this guidance in "English culture", might the child pick up what is termed cultural influence from the international family he is raised by in any case?

"Certainly", answered he. "The family know this could fail, but they've merely embraced the attitude of, 'why not attempt it and let's go as early as we can', because the expense of it is not a concern," he explained.

Idealistic and Unrealistic

There are some in the tutoring industry who express similar reservations.

An education leader, head and founder of Blue Education, who provides personal educators, wrote that "the journey of becoming bicultural, or indeed, becoming oneself, is something that must be lived into, not engineered."

The expert wrote that he had relocated from China to the United Kingdom at the time of childhood, and had been educated understanding and living both cultures. He continued to learn at a prestigious UK institution.

"The notion that one individual can serve as a representation of Britishness, an individual who can in some way transfer the qualities of a English gentleman upon a infant child, appears idealistic and unrealistic," he wrote.

"In my experience, employing a typically UK tutor from babyhood will will not necessarily create the goal they want.

"I did not have such a tutor, and nevertheless I have been lucky enough to enjoy several of the opportunities they desire for their son."

He stated: "The reality is, self-identity can not be forced from the outside; it must be chosen, and it must be internally driven."

Buying Britishness

Of course, UK identity is something Adam hopes can be instructed – and marketed.

"In my view the fact that the world views us in this light is something that we should be cherishing|valuing|appreciating